Irrational Morality

I was talking to a friend of mine a few weeks ago and we were discussing the issue of morality.

Of course I had an opinion (as I always do) about this, and I came up with two words that describe the way I think.

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Irrational Morality – My definition of this is when you do the right thing for the wrong reason. This could mean doing something for your spouse, children, friends for the wrong reason.. Now what exactly does that mean? Let’s talk of a few examples and of course you are free to chime in with your feedback if you have any.

Here are my thoughts and examples on Irrational Morality

  • If you are single you stop seeing someone because they are too good for you. The person you are seeing is perfect and loves you unconditionally. Even with your flaws and questionable emotional, or psychological patterns of behavior.
  • Getting married for the sake of getting married. You know you are marrying the wrong person, but you say to yourself: “There does not seem to be anyone else better, so might as well settle for the person with you are with“.
    • Now why is this irrational morality? You are getting married for the wrong reason yet you think you are doing the right thing morally by marrying someone that you know will not make YOU happy, but THEY will be happy to be married to YOU
  • To know the difference between right and wrong is important, but to be able to make the right decision for the right decision is key. When you make the wrong decision (i.e. Divorce) because you think you will be happier and more “independent” being single, is a classic case. Divorce is death.. Death of a relationship and it takes a few years to rebuild your life, and even then you are walking a fine line between sanity and insanity. h
    • A friend of mine related this to me.. and this guy was married for over 20 years! I know this guy better than anyone and he’s one of the most balanced guys I know.
      • When I asked him about “irrational morality”.. he got it right away: He said: “I can attest to this as I’ve gone through this “process” over the past two years and let met tell you I had totally underestimated the total impact of divorcing to do the right thing (morally)”
      • “I figured being divorced would be easy, so I gave up and went through the “process”. My Ex felt that being not-married to me would give her independence but she is more dependent on me than ever.”
      • “Thanks to the legal system, alimony and child support guarantees me unhappiness and the the sole responsibility of child care guarantees her unhappiness. So we divorced and now we lead two separate lives and and half the financial stability. The kids will now grow older with a broken home, because we irrationally felt divorce would solve our problems!”

Do you have any examples of irrational morality? If you do I’d like to hear about it.

How many phone#’s do you have?

How many phones are too much? For me the number is 7. what’s your number?

my phonesToday I realized that I have way too many phone numbers, that people can contact me with. I need to go off the grid, but I can’t with so many phone numbers that people have associated with me.

Here’s my list.. How many numbers do you have? Hopefully not as many as me.

  1. VOIP Number – Cable company said.. a triple play was cheaper than double play..I didn’t need a phone at home, but hey it works! I wrote this number down, but now I can’t find where I put it.
  2. Personal Cell – This my main iPhone.. yes.. I finally got the iPhone 6. Didn’t go for the 6+ as I didn’t feel like carrying a man purse to carry that around
  3. Work Cell – Cell given to me by company.. This one is an iPhone 5. Finally I can use one cable to charge both personal and work phone
  4. Magic Jack – this is my virtual number that I bought many years ago.. and I can access it from my iPhones as well as my tablet
  5. Old Home Number – Not with me anymore.. but when people call that number they will still get a Dad’s taxi passenger.
  6. Gmail Number – Ok.. this one is too much.. It’s on my signature on Gmail and I still don’t know how to use it well.
  7. Work Phone – My desktop phone at work..
  8. Skype – when I want to communicate with my relatives back home in the motherland.. I use this.

Ok so that’s 8 ways that I can communicate with the world using the various communications devices I have. What’s the maximum number of contact numbers you can add for a contact on the iPhone? I gotta figure that one out.

One time.. my daughter facetime’d me and both phones at home went off and I couldn’t find either one.. Now that’s what you call frustration!

So how many phones do you carry? Now I have to learn all the texting Acronyms so I can text myself using LOL and OMG or if I wanted to share TMI.. I can text the outside world!

Dad’s Fav link has been updated

Dad’s Favorites have been updated to Add some great Amazon sites. Take a look and give it a thumbs up!

As you know, when I find a site that I like and if I find a site that I really really like, I put a link to it on my Dad’s Fav Link’s page.

I made some updates to the Dad’s Fav links today to add some truly golden Amazon sites.

If you have any sites that you truly love, let me know and I’ll review and add them if they pass my test for value.. Ok.. If I like it.. I’ll put the link up!

Ok.. so for the folks that drop by.. (except for the spammers that keep on trying to SPAM), I’d like to hear from you!

Dad

End of 2014 – My last update

2014 ends and 2015 begins on Dad’s Taxi. Follow me as I travel through the unique perspective of Dad and his taxi of life.

Hello friends, this is going to be my last blog post of 2014.

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I was not going to write today, but, as I sit here drinking my Chai, I cannot help but be reflective. I’m also inspired by other bloggers on WordPress that I follow for their unique perspective. Thanks to the bloggers for inspiring me to continue on this journey into the blogging sphere..

It seemed like only yesterday that it was the start of 2014 which can best be categorized as the “never ending winter‘.  For us in Central New Jersey, the winter did not end till mid April when we finally saw our lawns after the brutal cold and multiple snow storms. I got the best view of this from my back window where I saw the horses in my neighbor’s yard.. That image was surreal. Two horses playing in the snow. For me that was a zen-like moment during a year of turmoil.

Horses chiling in the snows of 2014 in Leonardo, NJ.
Horses Playing Horses chiling in the snows of 2014 in Leonardo, NJ.

Even though the year flew by in blink of an eye, for me, it could not have ended any sooner.  My life took a left turn as opposed to the normal right turns I usually take (which I call my status quo). I’m almost certain that 2015 will be a more promising year for me.

Over the past two years, as Dad’s Taxi, I’ve dealt with many changes in my life. I’ve dealt with dysfunction (much of which I manage to create), and the twists and turns of the road as a maneuver my taxi of life. Most of the events in 2014 have tested my resolve and my ability to maintain some sort of equilibrium on my thoughts. At times, I’ve succeeded, other times, I could have done better.

  • I lost my father to in January 2013. He  was in assisted living after Super Storm Sandy. He had Dementia. May his soul continue to rest in peace.
  • I had multiple residences in 2014 because of personal issues at home.. You can figure that one out for yourself.. No need for me to go into it here. “It is what it is” became my mantra and it helped me to transition to “next issue, move on“.
  • I finally have found a new beginning and I face 2015 with enthusiasm for “new beginnings”.

As I sit here looking out of my window and await the new year, I am truly ready to welcome in to my life 2015 which is about 24 hours from now.

In 2015, I will work on myself more and become who I want to be. As I transition from being Dad’s Taxi, to  “My Taxi”, I can consider myself to be  a “work in progress“, and what the end-game is “to be determined“.

The end of 2014 has presented me with opportunities for change which I have grabbed with gusto, at the same time, maintaining my unique perspective on life. I’ll continue to post with a stream of consciousness.. No matter how annoying that can get. That’s what make me unique I guess.

For 2015,  I have created a personal bucket list of goals (Topping the list is to got Wimbledon).

In the blogs coming, everyone will eventually find out what additional goals I’ve set for myself. For now, my journey to the future is rife with hope and self development.  So keep checking back to see it all unfold in my own unique way of expression. Trust me, it’ll always be amusing and at times entertaining.

Let me close this final post of 2014, by saying I wish all my friends, family and followers:  A safe, happy, healthy, positive, optimistic and great year ahead, and may it be everything you wish for it to be. You just need to work hard at it and never give up.

One of my goals for 2015 is to get more views on Dad’s Taxi and engage you my reader/follower. I haven’t really been successful with that, but hey let’s see how 2015 goes.. . Of course for the spammers that love to leave their comments, you will continue to be banned.

I am excited for another year filled with blogging as Dad’s Taxi.

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Who knows how 2015 will play out, but I plan on having some fun! What are your plans for 2015?

Wish each one of you the best for 2015.. Now I need some more Chai

Hiatus and Start of Summer rambling

Well it’s the beginning of Summer 2013 and the heat is on. I’ve been so busy with work and other “stuff” (that I cannot discuss here), my blogging has been limited.

In between the rain that we are getting in Middletown, NJ over the past few weeks, I’ve found time to play lots of Tennis.

Yesterday my little rock start graduated from Middle School and I was just amazed at the pagentry and presentation that is called Middle School Graduation.. I remember in the ancient days (1970’s), we went from Middle School (What we in NY called Junior High School) to High School, we had nothing like this. We were just directed by our 9th grade (yes Junior HS in NY was 7 – 8  – 9) that go to your High School next year.. Kind of lame to tell you the truth, but that’s how it was in the ancient days (or as my kids tell me constantly “That was then, this is now!’)

I have to admit it is really great that today’s children get this sense of accomplishment and truly deserve to be recognized for their achievements. So many of today’s kids maintain such high grades through out their education its remakable. Even with all the distractions of Social Media (Facebook, Text Messaging, Instagram, Twitter, and so much more I just can’t even summarize here), they achieve a focused drive to succeed.

At my daughter’s graduation, out of a class of 200, 27 kids got the President’s award for academic achievement for their 3 years in Middle School (6 – 7 – 8). That means they maintained a B+ average through their 3 years!

Of course you can’t have a graduation without a celebration! We had a mini-celebration with BFF’s and their parents at a local Houlihan!

I tell you, being jaded the way I normally am, seeing the joy on the faces of the parents and the graduates, it bought made me feel really wonderful. I guess as I age, my jaded outlook is mellowing as is my Taxi of Life..

As I sit here and ponder, I see our future bright with these kids that will experience so much change with both technology and with opportunity. Many will struggle, succeed and some may fail. The one thing that the stuck in my mind and I hope many of the kids that were sitting in the sweltering gymnasium  realize is that their next step is “a clean slate”. A slate that is so important in their life that every grade they get will carry them into College and their future.

See I told you that I’d be rambling, and that my jaded outlook is fading…

If you are a parent, what you see as challanges that our kids will face tomorrow as they mature into adulthood? I’d like to get your feedback!

Let’s see what things happen today..

You can run but you can’t hide – Boston Marathon terrorists bought to justice.

In a swift act of retribution, the saying “you can run but you can’t hide” came true with the capture of the home grown 19 year old terrorist in Boston. Here’s my perspective!

our flagFor the past few days I’ve been thinking more and more about the events of this past week and needed an outlet to vent my anger. As the week progressed, I found myself getting angrier and angrier that cowards like the 2 brothers could bring a large city to its knees.

When I saw the blood stained US flag of one of the hero’s my rage started to boil over even more.

explosion sitesThis week was a horrible week for many of us. As we saw in horror the terrorist attacks in Boston, I personally sat transfixed listening, reading about and watching the news feed both on-line, on the radio and on television the progression on how as these home-grown  terrorists had justice served to them. These cowards (and I’m being generous with these words) killed and maimed innocents at Boston Marathon.

My personal reflections on this weeks events:

  • Both of these cowards came to America as refugees and America opened their doors to these losers (as their uncles called them). The US Government took these boys  from their war-torn country and gave them the opportunity to start a new life.  boston suspects
  • The Russian government had given the US government a heads up on the older brother’s actions as well their suspicions in 2011!
  • Why didn’t the US secret service keep the older brother on the watch list and keep an eye on him and his actions after his return from this 6 month visit to Russia?
  • The 19-year-old younger brother was a recently naturalized citizen (on 9/11/12 – ironic isn’t it?), and was going to an American college on scholarship.
  • How many millions and millions of dollars in resources did we spend to bring these terrorists to justice?
  • How many millions and millions of dollars are we going to spend to keep the 19-year-old alive in the hospital, for the trial and in prison? At least the older one died violently which was a good thing.
  • Are these weeks attacks a part of a larger nefarious act of a “sleeper terrorist cell” that is planning other attacks? How do we act quickly and exterminate these sleeper cells?

As a citizen, I applaud the tenacity at which the local and federal law enforcement officials collaborated to swiftly bring these 2 brothers to justice, These cowards kept Boston and the surrounding suburbs of Boston in terror for the past week. Without doubt the veracity and the swift actions of all the first responders, FBI, local police, and all law enforcement officers in Boston, showed our resolve and that these acts of cowardice will be met with swift justice.

I’m almost certain these home-grown terrorists would have done more harm to the innocent citizens of our nation of over the next few weeks. With the amount of explosives and firepower they had in their possession, it was obvious to me that the Marathon may just have been the first of many acts these horrific human beings had planned.

Some of the questions that raced through my mind during this week:

  • To hear of a “All American” 19 year old turn into a terrorist is just disturbing.
  • What made these 19 and 26 year old immigrants become such horrible human beings?
  • What made them turn into menaces to the same society that embraced them and gave them the opportunity to have a good and prosperous life?

As I sit here writing this post, I have a sense that the other shoe has not yet dropped and the senseless act of terrorism that we saw this week in Boston may not be the end.

The one consistent lesson our country has taught  terrorists we capture/kill:

“You can run, but you cannot hide from us – We are strong and unified.”

God bless America and I wish the speediest of recovery to the victims of this horrific act that we were all a witness to..

Workplace teachings for Everyone

I thought I knew it all about coaching, I guess even old dogs can learn new things to suceed in business!

At my job, I’m constantly on the phone and I lead a team to deliver IT projects. Many times I struggle with how to get the best of my team. How do I motivate them and/or coach them for success.

One of my workplace “coaches” provided me with a link that was so helpful that I wanted to share it with you.

Of course many of the ideas expressed on the “All things Workplace” are common sense, but many make you think!

Tale a look and tell me what you think: All Things Workplace

Thanks to my friend and coach Mike F.. for sharing this wonderful site with me.

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