Irrational Morality

I was talking to a friend of mine a few weeks ago and we were discussing the issue of morality.

Of course I had an opinion (as I always do) about this, and I came up with two words that describe the way I think.

Moral Brain

Irrational Morality – My definition of this is when you do the right thing for the wrong reason. This could mean doing something for your spouse, children, friends for the wrong reason.. Now what exactly does that mean? Let’s talk of a few examples and of course you are free to chime in with your feedback if you have any.

Here are my thoughts and examples on Irrational Morality

  • If you are single you stop seeing someone because they are too good for you. The person you are seeing is perfect and loves you unconditionally. Even with your flaws and questionable emotional, or psychological patterns of behavior.
  • Getting married for the sake of getting married. You know you are marrying the wrong person, but you say to yourself: “There does not seem to be anyone else better, so might as well settle for the person with you are with“.
    • Now why is this irrational morality? You are getting married for the wrong reason yet you think you are doing the right thing morally by marrying someone that you know will not make YOU happy, but THEY will be happy to be married to YOU
  • To know the difference between right and wrong is important, but to be able to make the right decision for the right decision is key. When you make the wrong decision (i.e. Divorce) because you think you will be happier and more “independent” being single, is a classic case. Divorce is death.. Death of a relationship and it takes a few years to rebuild your life, and even then you are walking a fine line between sanity and insanity. h
    • A friend of mine related this to me.. and this guy was married for over 20 years! I know this guy better than anyone and he’s one of the most balanced guys I know.
      • When I asked him about “irrational morality”.. he got it right away: He said: “I can attest to this as I’ve gone through this “process” over the past two years and let met tell you I had totally underestimated the total impact of divorcing to do the right thing (morally)”
      • “I figured being divorced would be easy, so I gave up and went through the “process”. My Ex felt that being not-married to me would give her independence but she is more dependent on me than ever.”
      • “Thanks to the legal system, alimony and child support guarantees me unhappiness and the the sole responsibility of child care guarantees her unhappiness. So we divorced and now we lead two separate lives and and half the financial stability. The kids will now grow older with a broken home, because we irrationally felt divorce would solve our problems!”

Do you have any examples of irrational morality? If you do I’d like to hear about it.

Junior Achievement of New Jersey (JANJ) – April 30, 2015


Bowl and Donate to Junior Achievement of New Jersey! I am a team captain!

If you like to bowl and would like to bowl for a great cause, join Dad’s taxi on April 30th at 5:30 at Harmony Lanes.

Yes.. you can actually meet and greet Dad’s Taxi in real life now!

Donate your tax deductible contribution via the following URL:

Help Me Support JANJ!

Junior Achievement is an organization whose mission I truly believe in – to help each child reach his/her full potential.  JA empowers young people to own their economic success through their trained volunteers who deliver real-world learning opportunities through a combination of classroom experiences, simulations, college and career readiness days, job shadow events and more.

I am hosting a JA Bowl-a-thon on Thursday, April 30th at Harmony Lanes in Middletown, NJ!).  This is a major fund raiser for Junior Achievement   There will be other major corporations participating as well – some you may recognize such as Cisco, Verizon and Alcatel-Lucent.

JA will provide pizza, bowling shoes and soft drinks and we hope to have raffles as well.  It will be a great social event and will give us an opportunity to have some fun and make a real difference to others at the same time.  We are striving to recruit between 12 and 18 teams of 6 people each across the state.  Each team should solicit sponsors and it would be great if they could collect $660/team in donations.

 Do you want to donate to a really good cause.. Here’s your chance!

United Way – How much is excessive?

I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t like to write on controversial topics.  Yet this time, I’m going to do just that. The United Way.. or another word for high pressure drives and contributions to a great cause?

Over the past few weeks, at the large company I work at, there has been a massive push for donations to the United way during their annual fund raising drive. I’ve contributed both financially and being a volunteer at company sponsored events to raise funds. Yet what I see at my campus,  is individuals who seem to have taken the United Way donations theory and convert  it to mob or cult levels for chartibable cause contributions.

Everywhere I look, I see the box of $1 candy (of which I admit, I’ve contributed multiple dollars here), to events (movies, raffles, ice cream stands, ping-pong tournaments). I applaud all these events as a charity like the United way is doing a great job for the community. Yet, when is this going to end?  The past day or so, I received multiple emails with tallies on the number of employees that have not “officially” contributed to the united way.

Doesn’t charity count when you contribute via the candies all over the building and participating in events?

What I have a problem is with:

  • The managers, directors and executive directors sending emails flagging the fact that unless you are counted with payroll deductions, you have really not contributed to the United Way.
  • The employees (especially the college hires) that go around the campus and knock on peoples doors and do what I call “pressure and guilt sales”.
  • The number of man hours that seem to be wasted with employees spending hours and hours doing “charity work”. Ok.. I admit, I’ve spent about 3 hours at an event as a master of ceremonies and just helping out with the event.

A friend of mine who happens to have his office near the employees that I outlined in bullet 2 above, told me of where these college hires (the future of my company), who gather every morning and have cheerleading and strategy sessions to make sure every box of candy in his building is stocked to the hilt with snickers, Hershey bars, and other high caloric items.

These same employees go around to other employees door-to-door and basically pressure individuals to contributeIt’s not just one person that goes around, they go in gangs from office to office asking for cash contributions. I know that if someone came to my door, my guilt would take over and I’d open my wallet just from the pressure!

I can almost guarantee that the during the upcoming week, I will be getting multiple targeted emails from the leadership “encouraging” us to open our hearts and wallets. Yet if we contributed via alternative methods (candy sales, ice cream, etc.. ), doesn’t that count to the bottom line?

There, I feel much better now.. Now I can go enjoy my Snickers and Hershey’s without the Guilt!  I realize that I’ll be subjected to flames with this posting, but hey I haven’t ruffled some feathers in a long time!