Summer of 2014 – Where have you gone?

Where did the Summer of 2014 go and what changes lie ahead?

I know, Dad’s Taxi has been on hiatus.. No updates in quite a while.. It doesn’t mean that I’m not here.

Honestly the past almost two years have been the most chaotic and dysfuncational time of my life. It’s been a long and winding road to where I am today.. Working to be at peace with myself… I never thought that would be a possibility, but as a friend of my said to me a few days ago on the tennis court.. “it’s a process which needs to be understood”. No idea how this applied during our tennis, but it sure applied to me in my life!

Sometimes in life, it’s best to step back and reflect internally and not publicize things that are happening in your life. At least until you are ready to publicize..  Let’s just leave it at that for now.

It’s hard to believe how fast this summer has gone by.. I blinked my eyes and it’s Mid-August. Only a few more weeks to Labor day and the “unofficial” end of the summer of 2014.

My Summer accomplishments (in no particular order) 

  • Recovering from multiple injuries (self-inflicted via Tennis and some stupidity when it comes to stairs!)
  • Going to the Movies (by myself) whenever possible
  • Spending time with my kids (when they had time for me).
  • Spending time with my best friends doing things like hiking, tennis and just hanging out
  • Taking my first vacation (a mini-vacation actually) to Wildwood and Capy May County NJ!. This was the highlight of this summer. Dad’s taxi was truly a taxi for my girls on this vacation!
  • Going to Binghamton, NY to see a tennis tournament
  • Getting in touch with my soul by meditation and connecting with god. This was something I really needed to do! With the chaos going on in my life, this was the only thing that kept me from going over the edge..
  • I actually went off-line Facebook for almost a month.. Of course I posted some pictures, but I was not logging in to see what others were doing. This self imposed Facebook boycott was the most difficult thing for me to do. I realized that I had become such a facebook h
    • First few weeks, I found myself gravitating to my smartphone to see how many “pokes” I had, whose “Birthday” was today, and just basically looking into the lives of my friends.. At first I thought I was being selfish, but I realized, that not being active in social media, allowed me to “go off the grid” and focus on myself!

Over the next few weeks, I’ll be going to Dallas for my annual visit.. for both fun and business!

Stay tuned as Dad’s Taxi “evolves”..

The Road Not Taken

Last week I was driving my daughter to a friends house and got into a car Accident. Now we are both fine and the only physical damage that occured was to both cars. BTW, I was not at fault!  As many of my readers know, Dad’s Taxi is always driving the kids around yet the decision of which car to drive determined the outcome of this accident.

Fortunately I was driving a 4×4 when I was sideswiped on the driver’s side of my car. If I had been in a sedan, only god knows what the outcome of that collision would of been. Now back to  my original thoughts which I had distracted myself from.

If I had taken the normal road to get from Point “A” to Point “B”, I don’t think I would have gotten into the accident, but in my infinite wisdom, I decided to take a shortcut. Since I took the shortcut, I ended up in an unfamiliar turn off which would have been familiar if I had taken my normal route to get my destination. So the road not taken led to a series of events which led to the accident.

This can apply to almost every aspect of life. If you think back, how many times have you made decisions that triggered a series of events that could have gone in two universally opposite directions? For me, I can honestly say it happens to me all the time!

Most decision you make in your daily life has consequences and reprecussions. Even the smallest decision you make in life may have either positive or negative outcomes. I see that more and more every day. Perhaps this train of thought is starting to “paralyze me with anyalsis”, but when I reflect on my life, many of the decisions I’ve made have send me in a positive path or a long term negative path.

Here are some classic critical decisions points in life as I see it:

  • When you are a growing up, you are taught to do the right thing, and to be nice to others. Now if you follow this mantra, you will either have lots of friends that will like you for being “nice” or you will have many people be guarded against you for being pretentious.
  • In my Teens and Twenties, I was always thinking about two things: Money and having a good time. Of course both of these goals were always at odds at each other, as financially you may not be able to support your desire to have a good time (which of course will need finances!). Since I wanted money to have a good time, I worked hard with multiple jobs to have money, which of course impacted my academic career. Again, if I had decided to pass on the financial rewards, I may have dedicated more resources to academic success.
  • What do you want to be when you grow up? This is a huge question that many struggle with. Once you commit to one path, it’s hard to change.
  • When and who do you marry? Now I think this is the biggest “Road Not Taken” thing I can think of. Who do you marry? Do you marry your soul-mate or do you marry the one you love? Now remember there is a clear distinction (in my mind) of a difference between both.

There is so much more I can write about. As a reader, what are some of the road’s not taken instances that you have faced?